Last weekend I got acquainted with a relatively unknown, yet often practised, form of art: I went out with a couple of pick up artists. Now what is a pick up artist? According to Wikipedia, a pick up artist is a man who is considered to be skilled, or who tries to be skilled at meeting, attracting, and seducing women.
After the first meetup (a short one in the afternoon, to make plans for the evening), I looked into the phenomenon a bit more. I found an interesting forum, on which guys that are new to "The Game" could learn more about what being a pick up artist is all about. The distinction between guys that are skilled and the guys that want to be skilled is clear immediately. On the forum you find a lot of lonely guys, trying to become more skilled at meeting good-looking females, or as they like to call it: HB's, which probably stands for something like Hot Babes.
The administrator of the forum challenged those poor guys to go on a "newbie mission" that required them to say "hi" to every HB they would meet. The saddest cases came back the next day crying that they were too afraid to do it, or just ignored by all those beautiful women. The slightly more intelligent cases understood that just saying "hi" and would not help them get over their anxiety to approach women and they actually said a few lines to their victims, before running away, being scared by the thought that they might actually receive a reply.
Of course there are also some very skilled PUA's, like the ones I met up with. They know that a woman is not impressed by some random guy buying her a drink or just a simple "hey, how are you?". They know how to win the interest of a girl, by doing those small things that they won't even notice. After receiving some advice from Ryan, an experienced PUA who could make any girl interested in him by just saying one or two lines, it was time for me to practice a bit. I was going to do my first "approach" as a PUA. The target was to have a one minute conversation with a random girl that was standing close to us. I passed the test with flying colours: the two of us had a very nice conversation and after 5 minutes I had to excuse myself, to get back to Ryan, who was waiting for me.
The rest of the evening I talked to a couple more girls, just for fun, with no other intentions than just to have a nice conversation. And, even though I had some varying success with my opening lines, I really enjoyed myself.
So will I become a pick up artist now? No, that's not what I have in mind. But I did have a great time last weekend. This new, more outwards oriented, approach can actually do good. I think I will try it out some more on my travel through Eastern Europe at the end of this month. More about that subject will follow in my next post. :)
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